Its Expensive…

My poor girl has gained so much weight that even before the recent five kg she’s gained in two months, the paed said we need to keep an eye on it and decide when we next see him…

This was her behind her little sister 11 months ago.

It’s not only about how her mean father told me she looks like a toad, but it’s because she looks pregnant in her two remaining dresses that her arms can fit into, and because those have empire bust lines that hurt her tummy as they are very tight.

She has been wearing two of my skirts..below the waist as the waist is too tight. I had bought teen size underwear but it hurt so I moved to adult size small undies after she took mine without my knowledge and it fit, and crop top bras in adult sizes too, but they too are hurting her and digging into her now. I bought them two weeks ago!! And you long time readers know that with her low registration sensory profile, it takes a lot for her to eventually feel pain. So now I’ve had to buy a bunch of adult size medium that don’t have seams, made with the most elastic material possible. She wore my too large for me medium exercise bra and was comfy.

Something is terribly wrong when your 11 year old is bigger than your menopausal, unable to do proper exercise, self. I feel sad for her. I wish I could control her appetite. But with the meds she’s on, the anti psychotics that also caused extreme weight gain for one of the twins (The other twin and Micaiah haven’t gained extreme weight from it) I am fighting an unfair battle. I’ve added a lot of exercise in our schedule for her for when I have time, but yesterday she had OT and today I have an assessment to attend. But also, her appetite…

I will tell her, as I walk out the kitchen carrying laundry, that she cannot have bread and peanut butter when she’s going to have supper in 15 minutes’ time, and when I come back to make said supper, she’s made the sandwich,, left the sticky knife on the counter and eaten it all. She will eat multiple bananas in the middle of the night and anything else she can find. She takes fresh fruit concentrate but instead if diluting 1 to 3, does it the other way round with three parts juice and one part water.

I truly don’t know when her weight will at least stabilise like our twin’s has. She’s been wearing age 8 or 9 clothes for many months now. It needs to stabilise. It’s expensive, buying clothes every few weeks. It’s unsustainable and she already doesn’t have enough outer garments as it is.

I never considered clothing when I thought of extreme weight gain till now. I never thought of underwear digging into the body and causing pain. How do I make this the plateau? In have no idea. Exercise isn’t enough. I provide low carb, low cal options but she wants the breads and calorie dense ones.

If you know anyone on antipsychotics who somehow fought against weight gain that had happened rapidly, share the secret!