Are You the Healthy Husband?

Every time I read an introduction stating that they are a spouse of someone with AS and want to learn how to support them, my heart skips a beat. It’s not common.

And I am very close to someone who’s living the very opposite of a positive marriage. Where even their child asks the healthy parent if they’ve asked the sick parent how their appointment went that day.

Why propose if you don’t actually plan to love, cherish and honour? This leaves us Bible followers trapped, because the only cause for divorce is adultery- according to the Bible.

So I’d be stuck. Stuck in a loveless marriage, and that’s what my friend says they are in.

Are you the kind of husband (or wife) who asks questions? Who asks how your spouse is feeling? Do you try make things better and easier? Or do they have to ask you? And if they ask, do you grant?

Or do you forget that invisible chronic sickness is still sickness and demand that they do much more than they can just because they LOOK like they can? Are you the kind of man who will sit there while your sick wife sweeps the floor at your feet?

We are all different in our desires as sick people. So I can’t tell you what to do. Definitely do study as much as you can about the disease or disorder-from your spouse, from others who are suffering. Ask then what they need. Try see where he’ll is needed and provide it before it is asked for.

When you got married, you promised to build a life with your spouse. Their life is hard. Sit with them in the hardness, don’t leave them behind while you sprint ahead in perfect health.