Helpless

I’m not sure what to do. About 19 years ago when we first moved to this area, a White man (my husband’s boss, actually), told us it’s very closed up. People like us aren’t exactly welcome. And I’ve certainly seen it in some groups.

But I never figured that it would mean that they don’t want our money either. Which it should have. Look at how hard it was to find a rental because people didn’t want to rent to Black people. Not even to sell to them! What apartheid nonsense is that!?

I’m stuck. Terribly stuck. I’m in increasing pain. I can’t drive far. But our occupational therapy options are nonexistent. One didn’t reply when I told her we couldn’t afford her services but would contact her when things improved. No acknowledging that she got my reply. Plus, she talked down to me like I’m a dummy. But I had been willing to ignore it for my daughter’s sake. Also, she at least had the grace to admit when wrong. (I’d told her that I believed my daughter had a visual processing problem and she disagreed with me. But then while doing her assessment, a visual area was touched on and it led to her adding a visual assessment that indeed confirmed my fears. But.. No human ‘soul’ in her and no written report after the assessment.

Another one, she would want to be paid YESTERDAY, but would make us wait MONTHS for the report. Hardly fair! And always an excuse, no apology.

I contacted one. This one, I’d actually been sent to by our son’s neurologist. But back then, this OT gave me to an OT who didn’t even have training in what the neurologist had pointed out needed therapy. She gave me to the therapist above who twice, took MONTHS to give reports🤦🏾‍♀️I emailed this year asking for help for my daughter.. silence. Given her disinterest years ago, and the disinterest now, maybe she only wants clients that look like her.

I contacted another one. I told her I was not available on Tuesdays (only three of them, specifically) so we need a different day to start the process if we were to begin while my first daughter is using more Tuesdays to be taken to Somerset West. She suggested..TUESDAYS!! I replied that the next Tuesdays were out.

Silence. And even the Tuesday offer came because she had gone ghost on me after I replied to her about the children and asked for a session! I received no reply to my request. I ended up re-sending my email that I had sent. And to that, she chose a day I had made sure to tell her I couldn’t take 🙄

I truly don’t know where to look for help for my daughter. Her executive functioning skills need improving. Same with my son. They need those foundational skills.

Where to find it???