Morning Has Broken

Autism and ADHD aren’t famous for helping their ‘victims’ sleep well. I have three out of four who don’t go to sleep well, don’t stay asleep, make hectic noise… Some mornings I don’t get to study my Bible because noise woke me and continues. Sometimes there’s boredom and one wakes the other. It’s just constant awareness of ‘something will disturb the night and/or early morning.’

And then when you wake up, you have my chubby five year old and her driving commands. On weekends, her dad takes her on a few of the drives. At first he’d tell me, “Just say no!” when he’d see me reach for my car keys. Now he sees why I don’t. The screaming and crying destroys everyone’s peace. Agreement leads to peace. And added pain for me in my bad leg.

So, we have Violet who comes in too often. The agreement was Monday- Friday and two Sundays till 1pm a month, but she tends to come in on more Sundays than she should! And my nine year old doesn’t help. I cringed one Friday when he said to her, “So we will see you on Sunday??” And she agreed with him! I reprimanded both of them. But, they’d made their agreement!

Some days, I want to cry. Since yesterday, I’ve been in a flare. Bones aching, fatigue back, almost didn’t reach my 10000 steps. Morning has broken and my problematic right hip is not giving me s break despite my 200mg Tramahexal. And that’s on top of the tongue that has two sores on it that are so bad I’ve asked the rheumatologist for help so I can eat.

I agree with the rheumatologist. The stress must be causing fibro issues. But wow, it took three full months for my tongue to obey my brain. It was scary. So I’m never touching Lyrica again. Which means that though I’m already on an antidepressant because it helps with nerve pain too, I wake up with a sinking feeling or am woken up by someone that will cause a sinking feeling that lasts throughout the day.

Why?

“Another day has begun. What will I be putting my body through today? How many times will I reprimand fighting children? How many times will I have to deal with my two PDAers demands and my ten year old’s struggles and my non-speaker’s demands? How do I get out of the multiple drives?”

Violet tries so, so hard. A few times, my girl comes to me saying, “car..car…” and then she is content to play and Violet watches her to ensure she doesn’t hurt herself. Other times she pulls her brother onto a scooter (really meant for younger chosen but her likes to ride on it anyway) and he has to keep riding around. One time, that ‘play’ caused her to speak! I was in there watching them just before I made lunch, and every time he stopped riding, she would pull the scooter. At one point, she shouted, “Good job!”🤣

Sadly, more often than not, she can’t be distracted or doesn’t allow herself to be distracted from her driving urge. And so, if I don’t go, if I try rest, or if I try continue working, it will descend into screams which cause her twin to cover her ears and ALSO scream. And then she and Micaiah complain to me that “she’s making noise!” And if I am in the loo (my bladder etc issues are back and I refused to catheterise myself daily so I have trouble with that aspect- taking ages to relieve myself) she will become so upset that there reaches a point where even when I am now driving, she can’t regulate anymore.

So..I’ll have to do it and have to when she wants. This morning, I’m truly dreading this day. But also, thankful that for a few hours, I’ll have someone in the house who wants to take the burden away.

My children’s photographer when they are at the playground.

Good job indeed. Earned me a few minutes’ rest and time to make their lunch without Little Princess pulling me or pulling plates or dishes out my hand because I’m not going to the “car.”