Shoulder Massage Needed

The depths of suffering a lifelong incurable disease cause, make themselves felt in so many different ways. One is tension. Because I’m basically gritting my teeth, I also am metaphorically gritting my shoulders. I have ti actively pull my shoulders down when I notice that they are pulled up due to the constant tension of fighting pain, smiling, chatting, teaching. I can’t allow myself to feel the pain in its entirety so I suffer a constant reaction to the pain – in my shoulders. At teeth, I grind my teeth so bad pieces of tooth can be felt in the morning.

Did you ever think of THAT about your loved one with extreme chronic pain? Did you ever think that they need a shoulder massage regularly to help release some tension? And just because touch itself is healing and soothing?

I didn’t. I did think of back massage to help the muscles deal with my old friends’ back pain. But never did I think of living constantly tense because of this invisible but very tangible presence in their body.

Even more does it make sense that my rheumatologist wants less stress for me. I’m already on muscle relaxants- so many per day that at first, the pharmacy refused to give them all to me despite their being prescribed. The one couldn’t imagine that I’d NEED so many painkilling muscle relaxants. She thought one dose would reduce the pain.

Nope. Lower back, shoulders, neck. That’s where my tension is. If you have a loved one near you who is fighting bad pain every moment of their night and day, please offer them a gentle massage. You’ll be making a difference.❤️